2007-01-18

How to Make Him Feel Sorry For Your Mistakes

The human being is one who is not perfect. It is but normal for humans to make mistakes, be it a woman or a man. Usually, in a couple, it is the male partner who says that it is the woman who has to apologize when a mistake is made on anyone’s part. To the male, whether the woman or the man is wrong, it is the woman who has to apologize. However this need not always stand true as it is very much possible for you to make your male partner sorry for your mistakes too.

One of the most important tools for a successful marriage relationship, or any relationship for that matter, is to be able to forgive each other for mistakes. In fact, being able to forgive is a great way of keeping you and your body emotionally and physically healthy. So if you make your husband forgive you for your mistakes, you enjoy your relationship much better because you understand each other much better.

Mistakes in a marriage can be anything and everything. Sometimes you may say something you don’t actually mean to your spouse. The reason you say such things could be because of something your partner had said, that had hurt your feelings. In such situations, it is definitely the male who has to make first attempts to forgive you for your mistakes. Though it may be difficult for both of you to forgive, forgiving is an important aspect of a successful relationship.

If you have a fight, and you feel and know that it was his fault and actions that led to the fight, then you should let him know that it was his mistake. You have to continue with your work, without actually fighting with him. The quieter you are, the more he will repent for his mistakes. Just carry on with your work, as if nothing had actually happened. He will gradually go over what happened in the fight, and realize his mistake and why he should not have said nor done what he had done. This is when he will feel sorry for your mistakes and his and forgive you.

Many a time, the reason for a fight in a relationship arises because of work not being done by the spouse, cooking that is not right and perhaps late meetings and appointments. Maybe you had not completed the chore that your partner had assigned to you because of your prior assignments or engagements. You have to then explain to him the actual reason for you not being able to complete the assigned chore. Once he understands your predicament or situation, it is more than likely that he will forgive you for your mistakes.

This shows that transparency is very important in a marriage. If you hide your activities from your partner, you will not be able to explain the reasons for your mistakes. So avoid hiding things that are not meant to be hidden in your relationship, and you find that he will readily forgive you for any and all mistakes that you make.

Source : go-get-guys.com

How to deal with mean people

There are some people that don't think before they talk. Some just want you to have a bad day, by saying mean things to you. The world is already a tough place to be in, so we should not have to deal with someone's mean remarks. Follow my guidelines and you will flip the script on those meanies.

Instructions :

Step1
If a mean person tries to hurt your feelings, take action. At first you may want to be polite, but if that doesn't work (which most times doesn't) move on to the next step.

Step2
I believe that confrontation is not the best way to deal with these meanies. That would be giving them what they are desperately craving for, "ATTENTION."

Step3
Humor Using humor sometimes, will work on some meanies. By using humor, you are showing that person, that you are not flustered by their remarks.

Step4
Laughter Another way not to give in, to a mean person, is by ignoring them. For example, someone may have said something mean to you (especially infront of other people) start talking to someone and laugh like you never laughed before. He will certainly get confused.

Step5
Don't show anger Try not to show that you are angry.When you get angry, i believe that these sick meanies get a kick out of it. They are insecure in some way and want to see other people sad, to make them feel better about themselves.

Step6
Playing the dipolmat, will sometimes work. For example, if someone is being mean to you, try saying, something like this, "How are you doing today? It seems like you are having a bad day today?" This may help them to reassess themselves.

Step7
Tell them to stop If all fails, you just have to give them a piece of your mind. Let them know that you will not stand for their insults.

Things You’ll Need: Humor, Good spirit and Strength.

Tips and Warnings :

Keep an upbeat spirit, even when you don't feel like it.

Act like you are talking to someone on the phone, through your bluetooth, if the meanie, comes up to you. After maybe 5 minutes of ignoring the meanie, turn to him and say, "Excuse me, were you saying something?"

Don't allow a mean person, to get yourself in trouble. Stay in control and don't lose your cool.

Source : ehow.com